Why did I start being selfish?

Hello Everyone,

Do you have individuals in your life who add complexity to your journey? How do you handle them?

These individuals might be friends, colleagues, family members, partners, or even your boss. People like these often complicate our lives, leaving us feeling trapped. Why did I start being selfish?

We frequently find ourselves obligated to serve those around us due to the commitments and promises we make.

For instance, we pledge to spend time with a friend, extending financial help like lending to a friend, or maintaining promises to loved ones or our job.

But this can lead us to feel like we’re being pulled in multiple directions, ultimately leaving us drained.

In our quest to satisfy everyone else, we often neglect our own happiness and well-being. Our energy gets depleted, and we fail to nurture our health, careers, and finances.

It’s true – others can hold us back.

This seems to be the norm in most cases. We feel tied to fulfilling commitments, as breaking them is considered a letdown.

Our upbringing ingrained in us the idea of serving others and keeping our promises. The world teaches us to please others, even at the cost of our well-being.

Yet, I beg to differ. Sacrificing our own needs and wants just to meet others’ expectations is not the way to go. Even if we try to meet everyone’s demands, we’ll still fall short when it comes to ourselves and our future.

Our lives shouldn’t be dictated by others. True honor arises when we’re satisfied and fulfilled.

Prioritizing ourselves isn’t selfish; it’s essential.

I learned this the hard way.

We often forget that we’re neglecting someone in this process – our future self.

Our future self is the one who ultimately suffers when we prioritize others’ commitments over our own well-being.

For instance, in a job, if we work overtime at the expense of our health and career growth, we’re keeping a commitment to the company but breaking a commitment to our future self.

Similarly, in relationships, adhering to commitments can be harmful to our well-being if it’s not good for us.

While it might seem like we’re breaking commitments to others, we’re actually breaking commitments to our future selves.

So, which promise holds greater significance?

The one to others or the one to our future self?

The answer is clear – our commitment to our future self should always take precedence.

Many successful individuals have realized this, focusing on themselves and their aspirations.

Simplifying life becomes easy when we prioritize our commitment to our future self.

This might raise questions of selfishness, but remember, we can only serve others effectively when we’re capable of serving ourselves first.

Just like in an airplane, we’re advised to put on our oxygen mask before assisting others – taking care of ourselves enables us to take care of others.

Once we’re secure in our commitments and well-being, we’re well-equipped to serve others.

While it’s tough initially, my life changed when I began prioritizing myself. I broke commitments, faced loneliness, and hit rock bottom.

But hitting rock bottom isn’t the end; it’s the beginning of a journey upwards.

I transformed my life by prioritizing myself. I rebuilt from scratch, focusing on self-improvement, meditation, and health.

The result? I rebuilt my life, happiness, business, and relationships.

So, the key takeaway here is this – focus on yourself. Prioritize your commitments to your future self. In doing so, you’ll become stronger, happier, and better equipped to contribute positively to the world.

Remember, serving yourself first isn’t selfish; it’s a foundation for a fulfilling life.

Stay committed to your future self, and success will naturally follow.

Have a wonderful day.